When we consider our past, we all have things that we wish we could change. There are those moments that we didn’t take advantage of or those moments we wished we had handled ourselves better. We may even have missed opportunities to apologize for something. Staring into your past will never make it change or help you move forward. You cannot right the wrongs of your past by beating yourself up repeatedly. Nevertheless, you can prove that you are a different person- that you have learned a great lesson and will not repeat the wrongs of the past. You can change your future past!
Change the Future Past
What is the future past? Everything you do every minute of every day becomes part of your past directly after you do it. Every hour that goes by makes that action become a more distant part of your past. Today will eventually become yesterday and tomorrow will eventually become today. Essentially, you can change your future past! You may not be able to change your current past – but you can live your life today.
Past mistakes have a way of wanting to drag you down and can become a never-ending voice of negativity. This type of negative feedback can become quite crippling in both your professional and private life. Your confidence and self-esteem will begin to suffer, and your relationships may take a toll. Continuing in this way can eventually start to take a toll on your health as well.
Having the answers on how to move past your mistakes in a positive, healthy way is critical to your future success. There is confidence that comes from having the courage to take ownership of our mistakes. It also shows others that we are willing to make things right and can restore our confidence.
Time to Look Forward
“Right actions for the future are the best apologies for wrong ones in the past. ” – Tyron Edwards
As we so melodically are reminded we need to let it go. Mistakes can be so hard to forgive especially when we made them. We can be our worst critics, and since we can’t get away from ourselves, we can also be our worse bullies. Taking ownership of your mistakes does not mean being the loudest, up-in-your-face, constant reminder of your failures, bully that steals your joy.
It means being aware and knowing what you don’t want to repeat. It means learning and moving forward. Looking forward and finding forgiveness for yourself means being the best you that you can be. Giving your best in everything you do whether to a colleague or a friend shows the sincerity of heart – this applies not only to the person you have wronged but in your daily life.
You elevate the people around you and bring honor, respect, and credibility to yourself and your work. You decide who you want to be and what you want to stand for. You do not have to be defined by your mistakes. Your past does not have to define you because you are making your future past now. Obstacles may come, but as you define your character, you will overcome. You will know who you are and your mistakes will no longer define you.
When you do make your next mistake, because you’re human- own it, fix it, and move on.