We often can find that we act and react without thinking. We each have our individual routines that we cling to throughout the day. The same can be said about aspects of our personality and how we react to situations and events.
What if you could consciously change your reactions and create better solutions? Would you take control of your future and break the cycle of the past?
Don’t Accept Reflexive Reactions
You do not have to become a slave to your routines or your past. When we lean on old habits or our go-to reactions, we only repeat our past mistakes and create predictable issues. Becoming free from external and internal pressures begins when we learn to identify the pause that is present before the need to react.
When we start making choices by looking for this pause – this moment, we deny those natural impulses that demand a reaction. We are then allowed to respond with clarity and perspective.
A Prisoner of The Past or Pioneer of The Future
“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” – Deepak Chopra
As you journey on your way to success, you can find your opportunity to pause by just using these words of wisdom. No one wants to become a prisoner of their past. But how can you break the cycle and control your reactions to engage better solutions?
- Consider the person you would like to be: This also means having a clear understanding of who you are. When you understand what your triggers are you can then become more aware of when your reactions may take hold. Consider who the new you could be. Take the time to develop a clear vision of this ideal version of yourself.
- Think about the meaning of your reactions:There is a reason that you react. It can be enlightening to understand why you react, and perhaps even their origins. You might be impatient because you imagine failure. Is it stemming from anxiety? You might find that your parents were critical, have you adopted these tendencies as well?
- What are the results of your reactions: Negative consequences can be more motivating to change your reaction. Continuing the example: Does your impatience impede you from solving problems? Is your tendency to be overly critical hindering your team from being as efficient or productive as they could be? Consider better responses and visualize yourself in these situations and how these situations may have had different results. This time, play it out as the new you – how many people could have benefited?
- Be Patient with Yourself: Remember to be kind to yourself. Personal growth takes time and continual effort. Being critical of yourself will undermine your efforts. You can practice your reactions with yourself as well. We can be our worse critics – starting with yourself may be a good place to begin.
You will find changing your reactions will become an essential part of becoming the person you aspire to be.