Each of us has an inner critic. It seems to me that one of the major challenges in our work life, is that our Spirit is muted and placed in the corner. When I work with my clients, they often bring up issues of life-balance. They feel over-worked, over-stressed, and adrenaline has become their drug of choice.
They want something more than the 50+ hours at work. Instead of working so they can live life, life has become all about work.
One-by-One People Drop Off
Some feel they are in jeopardy of losing something – personal connections are falling by the wayside. Their familial connections and friends, and even co-workers are all hanging by a thread or nonexistent. Some want something but aren’t sure what “that something” is. They are in a hamster wheel and it is moving faster and faster. Friends tell them to slow down. Family is neglected. For some, even their doctor is telling them to remove the stress from their lives – how?
I’ve been there and at times, still there. What I have learned is that I can stop frantic and methodic push forward. It is the Inner Critic that tells me to do more, be more, have more. My Inner Critic doesn’t ask if I am healthy or of what I’m producing is a healthy environment for others. Inner Critic isn’t interested in how I feel when I’m tired. Only that I get back on the horse and do it better and faster than anyone else does.
Know Yourself Through DISC® – You are Enough!
I have learned to recognize my Inner Critic’s voice. In that moment, I can now stop and ask myself if what I am doing is in the best interest for myself and others. At that moment, the small, but mighty voice of Spirit – and you have heard me refer to this voice in the past as “the coach” – takes on a stronger presence. The small voice overcomes the pushy and irritating voice of the Inner Critic. Instantly, I am at peace and recognize that Inner Critic is working against my best interest.
This is where building begins.
When you can isolate your behavioral patterns and learn to know yourself better, you can then isolate the Inner Critic.
It’s magical in how that small voice turns down the irritating and self-serving Inner Critic. That’s when I take a different direction. I take more breaks. Call friends and arrange for lunch dates. Spend more time with family and I shock myself when I hear myself laughing again! I make sure that my client’s know that I am one of their biggest supporters. They begin to know and believe that I am their biggest fan.
That’s when I know I am functioning with purpose and connecting in ways that I might have ignored had I continued to function from that previously negative busy energy.
Sound familiar? If so, here are a few tips to awaken your internal coach and bring Spirit back into your work and life.
Tip #1. Ask yourself: What gets me excited about the day? What can I do that makes the world a better place? Does the purpose for my workplace reflect the purpose for my life? If you have a purpose statement, revisit it. Start with one thing each day that puts that plan into action. Make work exciting and fun again.
Tip #2. Take time each morning to greet each person you come across. Start with yourself in the mirror. Simply say “Good Morning!” or “Hello”…and mean it. It can change the course of your entire day. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care…and that goes for your own internal conversation!
Stay Tuned For Part 2!