There was once a time when I thought that the only relationships worth having were those that made me feel good. You know, the kind of buddies that could share a good time and never hold you accountable.
When I Googled synonyms for the word buddy, I came up with the following:
Words that describe who a buddy might be – and words that go a little deeper than just a ‘good-time Joe.’
It made me wonder about ‘buddy’ relationships within the workplace. Would a team be as productive if they considered each other ‘buddies’? What about being ‘buddies’ with those who are leaders of your team and those who hold positions?
Then, I tried saying, “I have a buddy coach.” Can a coach really be looked at as your buddy? A friend? A colleague who will support you when you need to play?
Using some of the other synonyms, I finally settled on the words partner and ally. Those two seem to work best for me when I consider building relationships today.
Having someone who is willing to listen emphatically, hear the issues, and ask how they can help – this is who I look to partner with in life and business. That best describes the type of person I can easily consider a trusted ally. I thrive on the kind of enhanced relationships that impact my views and challenge me to ‘come up higher’ in my own performance.
If your coach is someone you can trust to share your concerns and understand the context of an issue you are dealing with, they may feel like your ‘buddy’ – and that can be a great relationship!
While you can’t be buddies with everyone – you definitely need relationships enhanced by like-minded people you can depend on, and with whom you can build a mutual support system for those times when you both could use a little additional help and support.
The Following Practices Make for Enhanced Relationships
Accountability: You need someone to hold you to what you say you will do. Asking a fellow business owner, for example, to create a partnership that allows each of you to help one another hold onto whatever vision you have, and brainstorming about how you can participate in each other’s goals, is worth the extra effort! You’ll both enjoy higher levels of satisfaction and success.
Resources: You don’t live in a vacuum, and as they say, two heads are better than one. Seek out relationships in which you can share valuable resources. These relationships involve conversations that provide feedback and ideas and information on conferences, seminars, workshops or webinars and other opportunities to hone your skills. Because of your common focus, you’ll help one other grow and encourage one another to achieve.
Lifestyle: Stress takes a toll on our bodies and drains energy that we need for our families and friends. Having an ally in the battle to improve and maintain a healthier lifestyle is a great way to be more successful with your diet, working out, or (yes) playing!
Creativity: Remember when you wrote stories, played music, or spent the day riding bikes with your friends? That was optimum creative time – and if you truly want to be successful – you can’t afford to lose your creativity. Be sure to form partnerships with those who encourage you to regain your creative momentum!
Support: Hopefully, you have a friend who is able to encourage your dreams. If not – it’s never too late, and it’s MOST important, to find an ally who can be there for you when you need to talk about your dreams and goals. Remember: Friends, allies, partners, buddies, and even coaches, can be discovered where and when you least expect to find them. And don’t forget to ask how you can be supportive as he or she moves toward their own dreams, in turn.
You can have one person in your life who serves all of the above roles, or a variety of colleagues and friends who support you individually. Don’t underestimate the power and value of relationships that enhance your life and work and bring out the best in you!
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